UNLAWFUL SEX

Genesis 11:6

And the Lord said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.

In the above scripture, the people did everything their imagination could conceive. Inside fulfilling certain desires, the flesh has a tendency to create in itself a thirst for more. This is why we, as spiritual beings, must put a bridle on our desires. The flesh is just like the tongue. Just as you have to tame the tongue, you have to tame the flesh to desire certain things.

2 Corinthians 10:5

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

To What Extent is Oral Sex Lawful?

For the sake of this understanding, there is a distinction between oral sex and foreplay. Oral sex is when the man ejaculates in the mouth of the woman. It is unnatural for the man to desire and prefer this type of ejaculation. He was designed to ejaculate in her womb(birth canal or vagina). There is a sexual attitude involved in this activity. You can move from an expression of your love for your mate to just plain sex. There is a difference between having sex and making love. Having sex can carry you into all kinds of perversions. It is spiritually unlawful for us to have an “attitude of oral sex”. This excludes foreplay during which you kiss or caress your mate on their private parts. However, when you develop an attitude in which the ejaculation must be expelled in the woman's mouth, you have gone into unnatural sex.

When there is an attitude and a preference for ejaculation to take place outside of the womb, the natural act of sex has been abandoned. This does not include stimulation and sexual foreplay. THERE IS NOTHING ABOUT YOUR MATE'S BODY THAT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED UNCLEAN. When both of you come together, you are one flesh. You should not be intimidated by your spouse's genital parts. You have the privilege of putting your mouth on their private parts. Again, we must identify attitudes and preferences. Many wives do not prefer oral sex. In this case, the husband is totally selfish when he insists on having it. When there is an attitude of oral sex, you have left the natural use of the woman. It may feel good, but when you move into an attitude in which you feel you always have to have oral sex, and it is what you prefer, then you have moved from natural sex to unnatural sex.

Masturbation

Masturbation is unlawful for men and women. The Lord has put restraints on us because the imagination and the lust of the flesh are limitless. For example, if your husband is impotent you don't have the right to satisfy yourself through masturbation. Masturbation is a sin. If you are having difficulty reaching an orgasm or ejaculating, it is unlawful to engage in masturbation in order to achieve total satisfaction. If you masturbate, you must ask God to deliver you from this act. God always comes through and is able to free you from such desires. There is a difference between caressing oneself during foreplay with your spouse and masturbation. You must resist masturbation.

Oftentimes, in order for masturbation to be successful, you incorporate your imagination. THE IMAGINATION BECOMES THE LOVER INSTEAD OF YOUR SPOUSE. This makes it evil and unlawful. It is Satanic, because you have left the natural use of the body. The spouse is meant to be the lover and not your imagination. You may be the type of person who can devise an imaginative scenario that you consider harmless, and be successful in achieving an orgasm. When you deal with the imagination, the limits are taken off. Each time, the appetites of the flesh increase. A thirst and a hunger can be created that your spouse may not be able to fulfil in the natural. This is why masturbation takes you into perversion. Anytime you have to replace your spouse with your imagination, you have left the natural act of sex. Your spouse should not have to be replaced in the act of sex.

You must allow your mate to do those things you desire him to do. Some men enjoy watching a woman masturbate. While watching her, he may ejaculate. Both of them have left the natural act of sex. This is unlawful and unnatural sex. In this, the man ejaculates by a visual and an imaginary aide. HE HAS REPLACED THE NATURAL ACT WITH THE MIND AND VISION. This can lead him into other things. In this, masturbation is like watching television. Sitcoms and movies affect our spiritual disposition. Dealing in the imagination has a power of creating an appetite in the flesh. Your fantasy world may never be acted out, but the mindset can become perverted and evil as it will create unnatural desires. One of the dangers of masturbation for both women and men is that it can lead into lesbianism and homosexuality, as well as other unnatural and unlawful sexual practices.

Even when it happens in the act of foreplay with your spouse, bringing pleasure to your own body could become an idol. Continual self-satisfaction could cause you to fall in love with your own body. Your mind and imagination could begin to look at others of the same sex and desire to also satisfy them. Lesbianism or homosexuality may be the furthest thing from your mind. Yet the devil is subtle. It is dangerous for us to go outside the boundaries of faith. Bringing pleasure to the flesh outside the boundaries of faith opens the door to lesbianism and homosexuality. God does not want us to use artificial devices. Any woman who uses artificial devices, such as “vibrators,” could have lesbian tendencies. Also, women turn to this unnatural practice trying to compensate for a mate who seems to be incapable of fulfilling her desires. If a husband wants to use these things on his wife, you must question why and where such desires come from. Why is he leaving the natural use and going to machines and gadgetry? Men are also using devices for sexual satisfaction and their own personal pleasures. They are utilizing them in very unnatural and perverse ways. You must lay these desires and questions before God.

Fantasizing and the Imagination

Some things may be healthy in your imagination, but you must be careful not to allow your imagination to replace your mate. Then, you have gone beyond the limits of your faith. Your flesh can create such a desire for these things that your mate can't satisfy you any longer. When you begin to fantasize over these desires, you will develop new desires you’ve never had before. Often the devil will tempt you by introducing to you new pleasures, and what the world calls “kinky sex.” The little things you pull out of your imagination can progressively lead to other things. AN INVISIBLE APPETITE IS CREATED IN THE MIND THAT THE FLESH WILL TRY TO FULFILL. This is how people enter into debauchery and painful sex. Some people are not satisfied with sex, unless they are beaten with belts and whips. This is known in the world as bondage and S and M (sadism and masochism). Where does this perversion come from? It comes out of the imagination and scenarios they’ve heard about or seen on television or in the movies.

Some men and women desire to be tied up so they are in a state of helplessness. This is not natural, therefore it is unlawful. Pornography also stimulates perverted acts against oneself, others and even children. Today, perversion can be created and experienced through the worldwide web of the Internet through computers. People have incorporated animals in the act of sex. Sex with animals is called bestiality and is unlawful. So many perverted acts are committed behind closed doors. Where do these ideas come from? They come from the IMAGINATION. We must be careful not to leave the natural use of the male and female body to move inside the imagination. In the imagination, there is no limit to how far we can go, and the enemy will never stop trying to move us into greater and more powerful strongholds.

Anal Sex

Anal sex is also unlawful and unnatural. It is also unclean. AIDS is proof that it is unclean. Anytime your spouse insists on breaking the laws, even by having a preference for anal sex and oral sex, you have grounds for divorce. ONE POWER GOD DOES NOT GIVE YOUR SPOUSE IS POWER OVER YOUR CONSCIENCE TOWARDS HIM. You have to give the answer of a good conscience towards God. Some women have ungodly preferences, attitudes and appetites for sex. The imagination can carry you a long way. God wants us to go back to the natural act of sex. He wants us to use the flesh to satisfy flesh. Marriage is for the satisfaction of the flesh and procreation.

How Do You Deal With a Mate who has Homosexual Tendencies?

Some husbands have been involved in homosexual relationships. Many women are married to catamites and sodomites. A catamite is a man that is bisexual. He may have a wife but also desires a man. In a relationship with a man, a catamite plays the role of the woman. Though he may not be involved with homosexuality now, he can have an effeminate spirit. When a man has an effeminate spirit, he is very emotional, acts like a woman and makes decisions like a woman. He is unstable, easily offended and sensitive because he is effeminate. A man is usually more stable, and robust and when situations come up he deals with it. But the catamite will say, "I can't stand this pressure.”

If you are in a relationship with a homosexual, don't feel condemned or defeated because you can't satisfy him. You are not equipped to satisfy him. A catamite wants a man. He uses a woman for a cover. Homosexuality is grounds for divorce. You can divorce your husband if you know he is a homosexual. Yet, if you decide to stay and deliver him, you must work the ministry of reconciliation all the way to the end. You can't isolate yourself from him nor move into the next bedroom. You cannot stop having sex with him. Of course, you must use protection. It would be better for you to get out of the marriage than for you to stay in the marriage and harbor iniquity in your heart, not being able to love. Because his emotions were so damaged, they produced a mindset which was corrupt and debased. The wife must be patient and considerate, looking to the Lord for direction and wisdom in dealing with him.

Very often, homosexuality and lesbianism are caused by rejection, a childhood void of the love and affection of a mother or father, as well as emotions damaged or defiled with resentment and unforgiveness. When you have been denied affection for so long, and then the enemy provides you with an opportunity to express those emotions which have been suppressed with an unlawful partner, the mind will exchange the moral code for perversion. Suppressed emotions are powerful If you stay in a marriage with a homosexual, remember affection, consideration, sensitivity, kindness, touch and love are desires of the flesh which are God-given.

It is so important to love the person. By allowing the individual to experience the natural God-given desires of the flesh, you will prevent the enemy from coming in and filling the “void”. When there is a supply of these natural inborn desires of the flesh, the emotions are usually affected in a positive way. However, where there is abuse or simply a void of love, touch and kindness, usually there is a negative effect on the soul. Saints troubled with perversion and frustrations Saints who are troubled with perverted thoughts must fight to destroy the strongholds in their minds. These strongholds are formed by the imagination, which is created by the acceptance of evil thoughts as worthy to be entertained. This is nothing more than an attempt by the enemy to tempt or remind you of past pleasures of sin.

The Word admonishes us to think on those things that are lovely, pure and of a good report. If you cannot do this, it is because you have made a conscious decision to lay aside righteousness and follow after the lust of the flesh. GOD WANTS TO FILL EVERY VOID IN US WITH HIMSELF. When you are experiencing times of loneliness and frustration, as well as seasons void of fleshy affection, touch, kindness and love, look to the Lord for that fulfilment.

Set your affections on things above and trust the Lord to meet your needs. YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THE POWER OF THE COMPREHENSION OF HIS LOVE, UNLESS YOU ASK HIM TO MEET YOU RIGHT THERE IN THE VOID.

Saints, God wants us delivered. He loves us so much that He sent His deliverance power to save us from our biggest enemy, ourselves. God’s commandments were given to us, not to make us unhappy or frustrated, but to protect and shelter us from the power of our fleshy minds. God knew just how far the fleshy mind would take man away from His heart and mind and purpose for creation. That is why the Lord told Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. When Adam and Eve partook of the forbidden fruit, they BECAME ONE NOT ONLY WITH GOOD, BUT ALSO WITH EVIL. In our natural state, we are no match for the enemy, nor the devices he has in place to ensure we dishonor our God.

Sexual perversion is everywhere. The enemy is not trying to hide himself. He is on the talk shows, movies, radio programs and even in cartoons. The enemy and his influence are everywhere! He is out there and he is not ashamed. So why should the church be ashamed to address an issue such as sexual frustration? First of all, if the Church is ever going to know God and trust Him, it must first know and accept the fact that God wants to deal inside every facet of our lives. He is not a “hush-hush” God, or a “can’t talk about this or that” God. God is the creator of the human body. He designed our bodies to function in a certain way. Therefore, it only seems natural if something is not functioning properly, or if there is something we do not understand about ourselves, we should inquire to the One who made us.

Let’s stop being so timid and afraid of our Father who loves us and wants us to be happy in all things. We must expose the enemy and begin to address issues which the Church, for years, has been afraid to address. If you find yourself in this book and you believe God is a good God, whether you are single or married, then go to God with your problems. Tell Him exactly how you feel no matter how ugly you think it is. Believe me, God is a deliverer in every area of your life!

Saints, God sent His Son Jesus into the world to deal with our ugliness, our frustrations and our sin. So please, do not feel as if there is something you cannot take to God. First, acknowledge your sin and tell the Father you really want to change. Ask Him to cleanse your heart and desires and fill you with Himself. Believe me, He can and will do it for you. Give yourself over to God and ask Him for a desire to please Him and Him only. Get lost inside your ministry and working for God and His Kingdom and you will have no time to consider satisfying your flesh. When thoughts to satisfy the flesh come, arrest them and bring them into the captivity of the Word. You have the power of the Holy Ghost that enables you to bring every thought into subjection to the Word. Remember, if there is any lack in any area of your life, God is withholding it from you or allowing it to be withheld, therefore, you must look to Him for fulfilment. He is the all-powerful God who cares for you.